Why is Modern Marriage So Hard?

October 6, 2021 by Justin Lehmiller

Is marriage harder now than it was in the past? Are we expecting too much from our spouses today? I recently interviewed Dr. Eli Finkel for the Sex and Psychology Podcast. He is a professor at Northwestern University, with appointments in the psychology department and the Kellogg School of Management. I asked him to discuss...

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Why is Modern Marriage So Hard?
What To Do When You And Your Partner Want Different Amounts Of Sex
What To Do When You And Your Partner Want Different Amounts Of Sex

September 20, 2021 by Justin Lehmiller

In long-term relationships, partners’ sex drives are bound to get out of sync from time to time. That’s normal and not a cause for concern unless it becomes a persistent...

Dating & Relationships, Sex Tips
What I Learned From a Decade of Studying Friends With Benefits
What I Learned From a Decade of Studying Friends With Benefits

August 25, 2021 by Justin Lehmiller

The very first sex study that I ever published appeared in the Journal of Sex Research in 2011, and it explored similarities and differences in how men and women approach friends with...

Dating & Relationships, Gender
4 Ways Men Say Couple’s Vibrators Improved Their Sex Lives
4 Ways Men Say Couple’s Vibrators Improved Their Sex Lives

August 23, 2021 by Justin Lehmiller

When vibrators are mentioned in pop culture, they’re usually discussed as masturbation aides—something people (particularly women) use to pleasure themselves. You don’t typically see people whipping them out during couple’s...

Dating & Relationships, Sex Tips
Are Our Brains ‘Wired’ For Monogamy Or Non-Monogamy?
Are Our Brains ‘Wired’ For Monogamy Or Non-Monogamy?

August 11, 2021 by Justin Lehmiller

Why does monogamy work for some people but not for others? Research suggests that it might have something to do with the way our brains are ‘wired.’ Consider a study...

Dating & Relationships, Psychology
Performative Kissing: When and Why People Make Out in Public
Performative Kissing: When and Why People Make Out in Public

August 2, 2021 by Justin Lehmiller

When a couple starts kissing intensely in public, it tends to capture your attention—you can’t pull your eyes away. And when you see this, it’s possible to experience a wide...

Dating & Relationships
4 Secrets of Successful Relationships
4 Secrets of Successful Relationships

July 26, 2021 by Justin Lehmiller

How do you make a relationship work for the long haul? Research has identified several key factors, many of which have to do with the relationship mindset we hold.  I...

Dating & Relationships
7 Reasons People Stay Friends with Their Exes
7 Reasons People Stay Friends with Their Exes

June 2, 2021 by Justin Lehmiller

After a breakup, some ex-partners avoid each other entirely. However, others continue to be in each other’s lives by remaining friends. So what motivates people to stay friends after a...

Dating & Relationships
What Will Sex and Relationships Look Like After COVID-19?
What Will Sex and Relationships Look Like After COVID-19?

May 12, 2021 by Justin Lehmiller

One of the questions I’m asked most often by journalists these days is what sex and relationships will look like after the pandemic. As a result, I’ve spent quite a...

Dating & Relationships, Sex Ed
1 in 6 Single Americans Report a Desire to Try Polyamory
1 in 6 Single Americans Report a Desire to Try Polyamory

May 5, 2021 by Justin Lehmiller

Google trends have shown an uptick in searches related to polyamory in recent years, which suggests growing interest in the idea of consensual non-monogamy (or at least growing curiosity about...

Dating & Relationships
Does Time Speed Up or Slow Down When You’re On a Hot Date?
Does Time Speed Up or Slow Down When You’re On a Hot Date?

April 12, 2021 by Justin Lehmiller

Our perception of time is inconsistent—and a lot of different factors can affect whether time feels like it’s flying by versus standing still. For example, watching water boil on a...

Dating & Relationships, Gender
The Dark Side of Sexual Attraction: People are Often Drawn to Antisocial Personalities
The Dark Side of Sexual Attraction: People are Often Drawn to Antisocial Personalities

March 31, 2021 by Justin Lehmiller

When I look at studies examining what people say they want in a romantic partner, people tend to report a lot of positive traits. For example, kindness, honesty, and dependability...

Dating & Relationships
What is Rebound Sex, and is It a Good Idea?
What is Rebound Sex, and is It a Good Idea?

March 29, 2021 by Justin Lehmiller

Rebound sex is generally defined as sexual activity that someone seeks out in order get over an ex or move on after a breakup [1]. In other words, rebound sex...

Dating & Relationships, Sex Ed
Are People Who Have Cheated Before Bound To Do It Again?
Are People Who Have Cheated Before Bound To Do It Again?

March 24, 2021 by Justin Lehmiller

“Once a cheater, always a cheater” is how the saying goes. But is this true? Is history bound to repeat itself when it comes to infidelity?According to the research, people...

Dating & Relationships
The Difference Between a ‘Hopeless Romantic’ and a ‘Hopeful Romantic’
The Difference Between a ‘Hopeless Romantic’ and a ‘Hopeful Romantic’

March 22, 2021 by Justin Lehmiller

What does it mean to be a “hopeless romantic?” You can find countless media articles talking about people’s opinions on this, but from a scientific perspective, what it really refers...

Dating & Relationships
This is How Many Tinder Matches It Takes to Get an IRL Date
This is How Many Tinder Matches It Takes to Get an IRL Date

March 15, 2021 by Justin Lehmiller

One of the things people find appealing about the idea of online dating is that you can potentially meet a much larger number of people online than you can in...

Dating & Relationships

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