The 7 Biggest Relationship Dealbreakers

March 9, 2022 by Justin Lehmiller

Decades of psychological research on attraction has revealed which traits people tend to desire in a romantic partner. Intelligence, honesty, and sense of humor pretty reliably come in toward the top of the list. This research has given us a pretty good sense of what people say they want—but what about the things they don’t...

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The 7 Biggest Relationship Dealbreakers
The Relationship Status of LGBTQ Americans
The Relationship Status of LGBTQ Americans

February 28, 2022 by Justin Lehmiller

Same-sex marriage has been legal throughout the United States since 2015. So what percentage of the LGBT population is currently married now that marriage is no longer restricted based on...

Dating & Relationships, LGBTQIA+
How Would You Feel If Someone Said “I Love You” On The First Date?
How Would You Feel If Someone Said “I Love You” On The First Date?

February 14, 2022 by Justin Lehmiller

A lot of people seem to believe in the idea of “love at first sight.” For example, in studies of people who are currently in relationships, as many as 1...

Dating & Relationships, Gender
Falling in Love with a Friend is More Common Than You Think
Falling in Love with a Friend is More Common Than You Think

February 7, 2022 by Katie Adams

In the famous movie When Harry Met Sally, there’s a scene where Harry claims that “men and women can’t be friends because the sex part always gets in the way.”...

Dating & Relationships
Who is Hookup Culture Helping, and Who is It Hurting?
Who is Hookup Culture Helping, and Who is It Hurting?

November 22, 2021 by Justin Lehmiller

College hookup culture serves the interests of some, but not others. So who is it helping, and who is it hurting? To explore this question, I interviewed Dr. Lisa Wade...

Dating & Relationships, Psychology
Is Infidelity Predictable?
Is Infidelity Predictable?

November 3, 2021 by Justin Lehmiller

Infidelity is common. Saying exactly how many people have ever cheated is a little dicey, though, because the numbers vary a lot depending on how you ask the question (e.g.,...

Dating & Relationships
How Many People Subscribe to the “Three-Date Rule?”
How Many People Subscribe to the “Three-Date Rule?”

October 25, 2021 by Justin Lehmiller

How many in-person dates would you want to have with a new partner before having sex with that person? We often hear about the so-called “three-date rule,” or the idea...

Dating & Relationships
Why is Modern Marriage So Hard?
Why is Modern Marriage So Hard?

October 6, 2021 by Justin Lehmiller

Is marriage harder now than it was in the past? Are we expecting too much from our spouses today? I recently interviewed Dr. Eli Finkel for the Sex and Psychology...

Dating & Relationships, Psychology
What To Do When You And Your Partner Want Different Amounts Of Sex
What To Do When You And Your Partner Want Different Amounts Of Sex

September 20, 2021 by Justin Lehmiller

In long-term relationships, partners’ sex drives are bound to get out of sync from time to time. That’s normal and not a cause for concern unless it becomes a persistent...

Dating & Relationships, Sex Tips
What I Learned From a Decade of Studying Friends With Benefits
What I Learned From a Decade of Studying Friends With Benefits

August 25, 2021 by Justin Lehmiller

The very first sex study that I ever published appeared in the Journal of Sex Research in 2011, and it explored similarities and differences in how men and women approach friends with...

Dating & Relationships, Gender
4 Ways Men Say Couple’s Vibrators Improved Their Sex Lives
4 Ways Men Say Couple’s Vibrators Improved Their Sex Lives

August 23, 2021 by Justin Lehmiller

When vibrators are mentioned in pop culture, they’re usually discussed as masturbation aides—something people (particularly women) use to pleasure themselves. You don’t typically see people whipping them out during couple’s...

Dating & Relationships, Sex Tips
Are Our Brains ‘Wired’ For Monogamy Or Non-Monogamy?
Are Our Brains ‘Wired’ For Monogamy Or Non-Monogamy?

August 11, 2021 by Justin Lehmiller

Why does monogamy work for some people but not for others? Research suggests that it might have something to do with the way our brains are ‘wired.’ Consider a study...

Dating & Relationships, Psychology
Performative Kissing: When and Why People Make Out in Public
Performative Kissing: When and Why People Make Out in Public

August 2, 2021 by Justin Lehmiller

When a couple starts kissing intensely in public, it tends to capture your attention—you can’t pull your eyes away. And when you see this, it’s possible to experience a wide...

Dating & Relationships
4 Secrets of Successful Relationships
4 Secrets of Successful Relationships

July 26, 2021 by Justin Lehmiller

How do you make a relationship work for the long haul? Research has identified several key factors, many of which have to do with the relationship mindset we hold.  I...

Dating & Relationships
7 Reasons People Stay Friends with Their Exes
7 Reasons People Stay Friends with Their Exes

June 2, 2021 by Justin Lehmiller

After a breakup, some ex-partners avoid each other entirely. However, others continue to be in each other’s lives by remaining friends. So what motivates people to stay friends after a...

Dating & Relationships
What Will Sex and Relationships Look Like After COVID-19?
What Will Sex and Relationships Look Like After COVID-19?

May 12, 2021 by Justin Lehmiller

One of the questions I’m asked most often by journalists these days is what sex and relationships will look like after the pandemic. As a result, I’ve spent quite a...

Dating & Relationships, Sex Ed

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