What I Learned From a Decade of Studying Friends With Benefits

August 25, 2021 by Justin Lehmiller

The very first sex study that I ever published appeared in the Journal of Sex Research in 2011, and it explored similarities and differences in how men and women approach friends with benefits (FWBs). In the decade since, I’ve co-authored a total of four journal articles on the subject plus one book chapter and 10 conference presentations....

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What I Learned From a Decade of Studying Friends With Benefits
Would You Feel Jealous if Your Partner Got a Sex Robot?
Would You Feel Jealous if Your Partner Got a Sex Robot?

May 24, 2021 by Justin Lehmiller

I get asked about the future of sex a lot, and one of the topics that often comes up is how robots are going to change our intimate lives and...

Gender, Sex Ed
How Gay Men and Lesbians Respond to Offers of Casual Sex
How Gay Men and Lesbians Respond to Offers of Casual Sex

May 19, 2021 by Justin Lehmiller

A lot of research has examined how men and women respond to proposals for casual sex; however, the bulk of this research has focused on people who are heterosexual. This...

Gender, LGBTQIA+, Sex Ed
How People Look Back On Their Very First Sexual Experience
How People Look Back On Their Very First Sexual Experience

May 10, 2021 by Justin Lehmiller

How do you look back on your first sexual experience? For some people, it’s remembered positively, whereas for others, it is a source of regret and shame because they feel...

Gender, Sex Ed
Does Time Speed Up or Slow Down When You’re On a Hot Date?
Does Time Speed Up or Slow Down When You’re On a Hot Date?

April 12, 2021 by Justin Lehmiller

Our perception of time is inconsistent—and a lot of different factors can affect whether time feels like it’s flying by versus standing still. For example, watching water boil on a...

Dating & Relationships, Gender
Why People Have Sex With Their Exes—And How It Makes Them Feel
Why People Have Sex With Their Exes—And How It Makes Them Feel

November 11, 2020 by Justin Lehmiller

When a couple decides to end a relationship, the result isn’t always a clean break. There’s often some degree of contact that continues and, sometimes, that includes sex. But who...

Dating & Relationships, Gender
What Men Who Use Sex Toys Know That You Don’t
What Men Who Use Sex Toys Know That You Don’t

November 2, 2020 by Justin Lehmiller

When it comes to sex toy use, there is a pretty sizeable gap between men and women. Studies have consistently found that women use sex toys during masturbation at much...

Gender, Sex Ed
Women’s Masturbation Habits May Be More Nuanced Than Men’s
Women’s Masturbation Habits May Be More Nuanced Than Men’s

October 30, 2020 by Justin Lehmiller

Some women masturbate right after having sex with their partner. Intuitively, some might assume that this necessarily means she was dissatisfied with the sex and compensating for an unfulfilling experience....

Gender, Videos
How Many Women Fantasize About Cuckolding?
How Many Women Fantasize About Cuckolding?

October 12, 2020 by Justin Lehmiller

Cuckolding is a sexual practice in which one is aroused by the idea of watching or listening to their partner have sex with someone else. I’ve written quite a bit...

Gender, Sex Ed
Is There a Link Between Porn Use and Relationship Satisfaction? Actually, No
Is There a Link Between Porn Use and Relationship Satisfaction? Actually, No

September 16, 2020 by Justin Lehmiller

Popular media reports frequently tout the damage that pornography use does to relationships. Some articles have made pretty bold claims, such as “porn-free relationships are stronger,” “watching porn can diminish...

Dating & Relationships, Gender
How Many People Have Ever Received an Unsolicited Dick Pic, and How They Felt About It
How Many People Have Ever Received an Unsolicited Dick Pic, and How They Felt About It

July 24, 2020 by Justin Lehmiller

Survey studies have found that many men report having sent unsolicited photos of their penises (“dick pics”) to other people before—but how many people say they’ve ever received such a...

Gender, Sex Ed
Why Rough Sex is Arousing to So Many People
Why Rough Sex is Arousing to So Many People

January 3, 2020 by Justin Lehmiller

Rough sex is one of the most popular sexual fantasies. While it’s a common fantasy theme across genders, it is especially common among women. As I discuss in my book...

Gender, Sex Ed
Blinded by Desire: How Motivation to Establish a Relationship Affects Sexual Risk-Taking
Blinded by Desire: How Motivation to Establish a Relationship Affects Sexual Risk-Taking

December 11, 2019 by Justin Lehmiller

We all like to imagine that our decision making is clear and logical and that we’re weighing the pros and cons before we act. The truth, however, is that we’re...

Gender, Sex Ed
People Say That 1 in Every 5 Dreams They Have is About Sex
People Say That 1 in Every 5 Dreams They Have is About Sex

November 18, 2019 by Justin Lehmiller

Most people report dreaming about sex from time to time. For example, one study found that 93% of men and 86% of women said they’d had sex dreams before. But...

Gender, Sex Ed
Most People Have Fantasized About Being In An Open Relationship
Most People Have Fantasized About Being In An Open Relationship

November 15, 2019 by Justin Lehmiller

Have you ever fantasized about what it would be like to be in a sexually open relationship? If so, you’re not the only one. It turns out that being involved...

Gender, Sex Ed
How Many Young Adults Have Ever Faked an Orgasm, and Why They Did It
How Many Young Adults Have Ever Faked an Orgasm, and Why They Did It

October 30, 2019 by Justin Lehmiller

It is a widely known fact that people sometimes pretend to orgasm during sex. But just how many have ever done it? Why do they do it? And how do...

Gender, Sex Ed

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