Sex and Psychology Podcast

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The Sex and Psychology Podcast, hosted by Kinsey Institute Research Fellow Dr. Justin Lehmiller, is here to help you understand the most important sex organ in the entire body: your brain. Each episode offers a deep dive into the psychology of sex and relationships, drawing upon expert interviews and Dr. Lehmiller’s extensive body of research. The Sex and Psychology Podcast is the sex ed you never got in school–and won’t find anywhere else. Catch up with the latest episodes below, and subscribe on your favorite podcast platform to keep up to date.

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October 22, 2021

Episode 57: The Science of Sexual Fluidity and Gender Fluidity

A lot of people think about sexual orientation and gender as stable characteristics of the self--they think that people are just born a certain way. While it's certainly true that many people do demonstrate stability in these traits throughout their lives, not everyone does. Many people experience some degree of sexual and/or gender fluidity, which can manifest in unexpected shifts in identity and expression over time. To be clear, this isn't to say that sexuality and gender are conscious choices that people can simply change at will at any time, nor is it to say that sexual orientation and gender identity have no genetic or biological basis; rather, it's just that sexuality and gender can be more dynamic across the lifespan than you might think. For this episode of the podcast, I took a deep dive into the science of sexual and gender fluidity with Dr. Lisa Diamond, a Professor of Psychology and Gender Studies at the University of Utah.  She is author of the incredible book Sexual Fluidity. Some of the topics we explore in this episode include:
  • How common is sexual fluidity, and what does it look like?
  • What is gender fluidity, and how is it similar to or different from being nonbinary or transgender?
  • How do sexual and gender fluidity intersect? Are people who are fluid in one way more likely to be fluid in others?
  • Where does fluidity come from, and is it possible that fluidity (as opposed to stability) is the really the norm?
  • Are essentialist arguments, such as the "born this way" concept, necessary and helpful in the pursuit of LGBTQ+ rights?
  • What does it mean to have a "sexual orientation?" Is it inherently about sex/gender-based attractions? Or do we all have multiple orientations, with sex/gender being just one type of orientation?
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October 15, 2021

Episode 56: Where Do Sexual Fetishes Come From?

People can develop sexual fetishes for virtually anything. In fact, it’s not a stretch to say that if you can think of it, somebody probably has a fetish for it. So why is that? How do fetishes develop in the first place? Are some people more likely to develop them than others? And what role does porn play in all of this? For the answers to these questions, I spoke with Dr. Jim Pfaus, a researcher in behavioral neuroscience in the Department of Psychology and Life Sciences at Charles University in Prague and with the Czech National Institute of Mental Health. Jim has conducted some fascinating research on animals that sheds important light on how fetishes might develop in humans. His studies show that rats can learn to associate sex with everything from articles of clothing to specific odors (including very aversive smells). Some of the topics we explore in this episode include:
  • What does it mean to have a sexual fetish?
  • How can learning theory help to explain the development of fetishes?
  • How do people’s early sexual experiences affect their sexual turn-ons?
  • Are some people more predisposed to developing fetishes than others?
  • In what ways does pornography shape our sexual interests?
  • How has porn (and what kind of porn people find to be arousing) changed over time?
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October 8, 2021

Episode 55: Sex, Pleasure, Consent, and the Intimate Lives of Teens Today

Today’s youth are facing a complicated landscape when it comes to sex. They live in a world where sex is all around and porn is more easily accessible than ever before, but they’re not being educated about it and they’re receiving a lot of mixed messages. So are young adults getting what they want out of sex and relationships? What do their intimate lives look like? And what can parents and schools do to better support them? For insight into these questions, I spoke with Peggy Orenstein, author of The New York Times best-sellers Boys & Sex and Girls & Sex. Her TED Talk, “What Young Women Believe About Their Own Sexual Pleasure,” has been viewed over 5 million times. Peggy conducted in-depth interviews with dozens of teens and college students about their intimate lives for her recent books, and the results were fascinating. Some of the topics we explore in this episode include:
  • How do today’s youth define the terms “sex” and “virginity?”
  • Young women today have been empowered in many ways compared to generations past, but that doesn’t seem to be translating into sexual empowerment. Why is that?
  • Why does pleasure need to be a central focus of sex education? How does sex ed need to change more broadly?
  • How are young people today navigating conversations around consent?
  • How do young men feel about “hookup culture?” Is hookup culture disenfranchising everyone?
  • How are LGBTQ youth faring in all of this?
  • How can parents have more effective and productive conversations about sex with their kids?
To learn more about Peggy and her work, visit peggyorenstein.com

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October 1, 2021

Episode 54: How To Have Better Sex And Deal With Sexual Difficulties

Sexual difficulties are common, but people tend to have a really hard time talking about them. In fact, people often find it easier to avoid the subject entirely, which can lead sex to disappear in a relationship. So how can people start healthy and productive conversations about sexual difficulties? What can they do to address them? And whether sexual difficulties are present or not, how can you have better sex?

For insight into these topics and more, I spoke with Jeff Abraham, CEO of the company Absorption Pharmaceuticals. Jeff built a successful tech company that allowed him to retire early—but he later emerged from retirement to run a sexual health company founded by urologist Dr. Ronald Gilbert, who developed a product called Promescent designed to help men last longer in bed.

Some of the topics we explore in this episode include:

  • We’ve all heard that “sex sells,” but does it really? What are some of the challenges of running a sexual health and wellness company?
  • How long does it usually take men and women to orgasm? What is the size of the orgasm gap?
  • What counts as “premature ejaculation” anyway?
  • Why is it that premature ejaculation sometimes gets misdiagnosed as erectile dysfunction?
  • How do you bring up the topic of sexual difficulties with a partner, whether you’re the one experiencing a difficulty or your partner is?
  • Is there anything that men can do to last longer in bed?
  • What do both men and women need to know about having better sex?

To learn more about Jeff and his company, visit promescent.com

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September 22, 2021

Episode 53: Everything You Think You Know About Sex Is Probably Wrong

Have you ever heard that there are 8,000 nerve endings in the clitoris, or that the clitoris has twice as many nerve endings as the penis? These statements appear as facts in countless social media posts, news articles, and books. There’s just one problem with them, though—they’re wrong. It turns out that so many of the things we think we know about sex and that we hear repeated over and over just aren’t true.

That’s why this episode of the podcast is all about what we don’t know about sex. To help us set the record straight, I spoke with Dr. Lisa Dawn Hamilton. She is an associate professor of Psychology at Mount Allison University in Sackville, where she teaches about sex, gender, and neuroscience. Lisa Dawn also has a fantastic podcast called Do We Know Things? that corrects common misconceptions about sex.

Some of the topics we explore in this episode include:

  • What is the G-spot, really?
  • Do we actually know what the average penis size is?
  • Can men have multiple orgasms, too?
  • Does peeing after sex really reduce your risk of getting urinary tract infections?
  • What is the real purpose of pubic hair, and how is public hair removal related to STD risk?
  • How do hormones like testosterone and oxytocin really affect us?
  • How do the brains of monogamous and non-monogamous men differ?
  • What’s the connection between sexual arousal and disgust? Why does disgust sometimes become a sexual turn-on?

To learn more about Lisa Dawn and her work, visit doweknowthings.com

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