Tips For ‘Cheat-Proofing’ Your Relationship

July 18, 2022 by Justin Lehmiller

Most people say that their ideal relationship would be monogamous. Despite this, however, a lot of people seem to have a really hard time maintaining monogamy. So if monogamy is what you want, what do you need to know? Are there any strategies you can try to help “cheat-proof” your relationship? I recently interviewed Dr....

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Tips For ‘Cheat-Proofing’ Your Relationship
The Truth About the 5 Love Languages, and How to Show Love
The Truth About the 5 Love Languages, and How to Show Love

July 11, 2022 by Justin Lehmiller

The “love language” concept has become increasingly popular as a way of explaining differences in how people prefer to show and receive love. However, despite its enormous popularity, there still...

Dating & Relationships, Psychology
A New Way of Thinking About Sexual Orientation
A New Way of Thinking About Sexual Orientation

May 9, 2022 by Justin Lehmiller

Sexual fantasy, pornography use, and in-person sexual behavior each tell us something unique about our sexuality, which means we can’t just assume that sexual interests in one context, transcend other...

Interviews, LGBTQIA+, Psychology
Who is Hookup Culture Helping, and Who is It Hurting?
Who is Hookup Culture Helping, and Who is It Hurting?

November 22, 2021 by Justin Lehmiller

College hookup culture serves the interests of some, but not others. So who is it helping, and who is it hurting? To explore this question, I interviewed Dr. Lisa Wade...

Dating & Relationships, Psychology
Sexy Sounds: The Songs People Hear in Their Sexual Fantasies
Sexy Sounds: The Songs People Hear in Their Sexual Fantasies

November 15, 2021 by Justin Lehmiller

Sexual fantasies can be a multi-sensory experience. They’re not just about what we can see—but also what we can feel, smell, taste, and hear. In this post, we’re going to...

Fantasies, Psychology
Sex and Travel: Why Trips Often Turn Us On
Sex and Travel: Why Trips Often Turn Us On

October 20, 2021 by Justin Lehmiller

A friend of mine told me about a recent discussion he had with friends where everyone talked about having had a similar experience: whenever they were away on a trip,...

Fantasies, Psychology
Why is Modern Marriage So Hard?
Why is Modern Marriage So Hard?

October 6, 2021 by Justin Lehmiller

Is marriage harder now than it was in the past? Are we expecting too much from our spouses today? I recently interviewed Dr. Eli Finkel for the Sex and Psychology...

Dating & Relationships, Psychology
When Disgust Becomes a Sexual Turn-On
When Disgust Becomes a Sexual Turn-On

September 22, 2021 by Justin Lehmiller

“I felt disgusted, but also very satisfied.”  I just heard this line on an NPR podcast that had absolutely nothing to do with sex—but it really got me thinking because...

Kink & BDSM, Psychology
Are Our Brains ‘Wired’ For Monogamy Or Non-Monogamy?
Are Our Brains ‘Wired’ For Monogamy Or Non-Monogamy?

August 11, 2021 by Justin Lehmiller

Why does monogamy work for some people but not for others? Research suggests that it might have something to do with the way our brains are ‘wired.’ Consider a study...

Dating & Relationships, Psychology
The True Story of How I Became a Sex Educator and Researcher
The True Story of How I Became a Sex Educator and Researcher

March 10, 2021 by Justin Lehmiller

Our professional biographies tend to serve as a “highlight reel”—they only say the great things we’ve accomplished and don’t reveal the struggles, challenges, and uncertainties that went into building a...

Psychology
What Scientists Get Wrong About Relationships
What Scientists Get Wrong About Relationships

January 11, 2021 by Justin Lehmiller

I went to graduate school to study the psychology of romantic relationships. Relationships are one of the most significant and consequential things in our lives, with the quality of our...

Dating & Relationships, Psychology
Announcing the Eighth Annual SPSP Sexuality Pre-Conference!
Announcing the Eighth Annual SPSP Sexuality Pre-Conference!

October 5, 2020 by Justin Lehmiller

I am pleased to announce the eighth annual SPSP Sexuality Pre-Conference! It will be held next February prior to the annual meeting of the Society for Personality and Social Psychology....

Psychology
4 Theories on the Psychology of Prejudice
4 Theories on the Psychology of Prejudice

June 8, 2020 by Justin Lehmiller

I have received several questions from readers recently on the psychology of prejudice. Where does it come from? Why are racism, sexism, homophobia, and other forms of bias so common?...

Psychology
Fighting Inequality and Injustice: Actions Speak Louder Than Words
Fighting Inequality and Injustice: Actions Speak Louder Than Words

June 5, 2020 by Justin Lehmiller

Events over the last several weeks have got me thinking more about what I can do to make a difference when it comes to fighting against entrenched forms of inequality...

Psychology
How Do You Become a Sex Researcher?
How Do You Become a Sex Researcher?

February 21, 2020 by Justin Lehmiller

‘How do I become a sex researcher?’ I get this question a lot from students who want to know what degree they should pursue in order to enter the field....

Psychology
What Does It Mean To Be Sex Positive?
What Does It Mean To Be Sex Positive?

October 9, 2019 by Justin Lehmiller

What does it mean to be sex positive? This is one of those terms that different people define in different ways; however, at the core of most definitions is the...

Psychology

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