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How Couples Can Sustain a Strong Sexual Connection for a Lifetime

October 18, 2019 by Justin Lehmiller

As a sex educator and researcher, one of the most common questions I get asked (besides “am I normal?”) is how a couple can stay sexually connected and passionate for the long term. It’s no surprise that this is such a common question when research shows that sexual passion typically declines over the course of a relationship. In fact, on average, sexual frequency and satisfaction start dropping after just one year.

However, this doesn’t mean that maintaining sexual passion or a satisfying sex life is impossible in a long-term relationship. So how do you do it?

Sex educator Emily Nagoski (author of the book Come As You Are) shares her perspective in the video below. She presents two keys to staying sexually connected in a relationship. Check out the video to learn what they are.

Nagoski’s talk is a great starting point for building up or rediscovering that sexual connection with a partner. However, for additional tips and tricks on keeping the spark alive or giving your sex life a boost, check out these articles:

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Dr. Justin Lehmiller
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Dr. Justin Lehmiller is a social psychologist and Research Fellow at The Kinsey Institute. He runs the Sex and Psychology blog and podcast and is author of the popular book Tell Me What You Want. Dr. Lehmiller is an award-winning educator, and a prolific researcher who has published more than 50 academic works.

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