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Dr. Justin Lehmiller received his Ph.D. in Social Psychology from Purdue University. He is a Research Fellow at The Kinsey Institute and author of the book Tell Me What You Want: The Science of Sexual Desire and How It Can Help You Improve Your Sex Life. Dr. Lehmiller is an award-winning educator, having been honored three times with the Certificate of Teaching Excellence from Harvard University, where he taught for several years.

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The World’s First Sex Toy For Persons With Disabilities is Here

December 6, 2021 by Justin Lehmiller

Sex toys can be a great addition to just about anyone’s sex life because they can add an element of novelty, while also introducing you to new sensations. Sex toys can help you to more fully explore your body and your sexuality, while also boosting passion and excitement in a relationship. However, it can be...

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The World’s First Sex Toy For Persons With Disabilities is Here
Holiday Shopping Ideas For The Sexy People In Your Life
Holiday Shopping Ideas For The Sexy People In Your Life

November 29, 2021 by Justin Lehmiller

If you haven’t started your holiday shopping yet, now’s the time! With supply chain issues and shipping delays piling up, it’s a good idea to get started a little earlier...

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Seven Reasons to be Thankful for Sex Today (and Every Other Day of the Year)
Seven Reasons to be Thankful for Sex Today (and Every Other Day of the Year)

November 25, 2021 by Justin Lehmiller

To all of my readers celebrating Thanksgiving today, don’t forget to be thankful for sex! Research suggests that sex is good for us in a lot of ways, both physically and...

Potpourri
Who is Hookup Culture Helping, and Who is It Hurting?
Who is Hookup Culture Helping, and Who is It Hurting?

November 22, 2021 by Justin Lehmiller

College hookup culture serves the interests of some, but not others. So who is it helping, and who is it hurting? To explore this question, I interviewed Dr. Lisa Wade...

Dating & Relationships, Psychology
Sexy Sounds: The Songs People Hear in Their Sexual Fantasies
Sexy Sounds: The Songs People Hear in Their Sexual Fantasies

November 15, 2021 by Justin Lehmiller

Sexual fantasies can be a multi-sensory experience. They’re not just about what we can see—but also what we can feel, smell, taste, and hear. In this post, we’re going to...

Fantasies, Psychology
The 10 Most Common Places We Fantasize About Having Sex
The 10 Most Common Places We Fantasize About Having Sex

November 10, 2021 by Justin Lehmiller

When you have a sexual fantasy, where does it take place? For some people, the setting doesn’t matter at all, whereas for others, the setting is crucial to establishing a...

Fantasies
Sexual Uniforms: The Costumes That Turn People On
Sexual Uniforms: The Costumes That Turn People On

November 8, 2021 by Justin Lehmiller

When you fantasize about sex, do you ever imagine your partner(s) wearing a specific uniform? If so, you’re not alone. In the survey of 4,175 Americans I conducted for my...

Fantasies, Kink & BDSM
Tell Me What You Want

Tell Me What You Want

Discover what the largest survey of sexual fantasies in America tells us about the erotic mind – and how to have a healthier, hotter sex life.

Sex and Psychology Podcast

Sex and Psychology Podcast

Take a deep dive into the psychology of sex and relationships. This is the sex ed you never got in school – and won’t get anywhere else.

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