When Disgust Becomes a Sexual Turn-On

September 22, 2021 by Justin Lehmiller

“I felt disgusted, but also very satisfied.”  I just heard this line on an NPR podcast that had absolutely nothing to do with sex—but it really got me thinking because I’ve heard people say similar things about sex on several occasions. Specifically, they fantasized about or performed a sex act that definitely triggered feelings of...

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When Disgust Becomes a Sexual Turn-On
5 Things Science Has Taught Us About BDSM
5 Things Science Has Taught Us About BDSM

August 16, 2021 by Justin Lehmiller

BDSM (which stands for bondage/discipline, dominance/submission, and sadism/masochism) is one of the most popular sexual fantasies and a significant number of people report having engaged in BDSM acts before. Interest in BDSM appears...

Fantasies, Kink & BDSM
Sex with a Sleeping Person: The Psychology of Somnophilia
Sex with a Sleeping Person: The Psychology of Somnophilia

August 4, 2021 by Justin Lehmiller

Somnophilia refers to a sexual interest in which someone is turned on by the idea of having sex with a person who is sleeping—or being asleep and receiving sexual attention...

Fantasies, Kink & BDSM, Sex Ed
Sleeping Beauty Syndrome: Fantasies About Sex With a Sleeping Person
Sleeping Beauty Syndrome: Fantasies About Sex With a Sleeping Person

July 21, 2021 by Justin Lehmiller

Some people are turned on by the idea of having sex with a partner who is sleeping—or being asleep and receiving sexual attention from someone else. This sexual interest is...

Fantasies, Kink & BDSM, Sex Ed
How Common are Pregnancy Fetishes?
How Common are Pregnancy Fetishes?

April 5, 2021 by Justin Lehmiller

In the last couple of years, I seem to have become the go-to person for journalists and sex therapists who want to know how common a given sexual fantasy is....

Kink & BDSM, Sex Ed
Is BDSM Always About Sex?
Is BDSM Always About Sex?

March 17, 2021 by Justin Lehmiller

Most of the time that you see BDSM discussed or mentioned in the popular media, it is referenced as a sexual activity. In other words, it’s largely seen as something...

Kink & BDSM, Sex Ed
How Your Cat Could Make You Kinkier
How Your Cat Could Make You Kinkier

February 24, 2021 by Justin Lehmiller

Earlier this week, I wrote an article about how infectious organisms transmitted through sex can potentially alter the sexual behavior patterns of the host. By encouraging the host to engage...

Kink & BDSM, Sex Ed
How Common are Fantasies About Eating (or Being Eaten by) Someone Else?
How Common are Fantasies About Eating (or Being Eaten by) Someone Else?

September 25, 2020 by Justin Lehmiller

A reader asked:“How common are vorarephilia fantasies?”For those who aren’t familiar, vorarephilia (also known as vore for short) refers to a sexual interest that revolves around consuming or being consumed...

Kink & BDSM, Sex Q&A
The Psychology of Pup Play
The Psychology of Pup Play

September 23, 2020 by Justin Lehmiller

“Pup play” is a form of sexual roleplay in which an adult human adopts the appearance and characteristics of a dog. This may include dressing up like a dog (wearing...

Kink & BDSM, Videos
3 Reasons People Engage in Sexual Sadism and Masochism
3 Reasons People Engage in Sexual Sadism and Masochism

August 7, 2020 by Justin Lehmiller

Sadism and masochism involve deriving pleasure from the experience of giving and receiving pain, respectively. This can take a number of forms, from spanking to whipping to flogging and beyond...

Kink & BDSM, Sex Ed
The Psychological Origins of BDSM: 8 Things That Draw People to Kink
The Psychological Origins of BDSM: 8 Things That Draw People to Kink

July 27, 2020 by Justin Lehmiller

Bondage/discipline, dominance/submission, and sadism/masochism (BDSM) is one of the most popular sexual fantasies and a significant number of people report having engaged in BDSM acts before.So why is it such...

Kink & BDSM, Sex Ed
What’s the Difference Between a Kink and a Fetish?
What’s the Difference Between a Kink and a Fetish?

July 10, 2020 by Justin Lehmiller

A reader asked the following question:“I hear the terms kink and fetish being used in a pretty interchangeable way most of the time. However, I feel like they are two...

Kink & BDSM, Sex Q&A
I Fantasize About Getting Shrunken Down and Eaten by Another Man: What Does It Mean?
I Fantasize About Getting Shrunken Down and Eaten by Another Man: What Does It Mean?

January 31, 2020 by Justin Lehmiller

A reader recently wrote to ask me a question about their biggest sexual fantasy. He said:“I have always had a sexual fantasy about getting shrunken down and eaten by a...

Kink & BDSM, Sex Q&A
More Evidence That Many ‘Unusual’ Sexual Interests Aren’t So Unusual After All
More Evidence That Many ‘Unusual’ Sexual Interests Aren’t So Unusual After All

January 20, 2020 by Justin Lehmiller

Psychologists and psychiatrists typically use the term paraphilia to refer to unusual or uncommon sexual interests or activities. Hundreds of desires have been described as paraphilias over the years, although there are currently...

Kink & BDSM
All of the Unusual Things People Got Stuck Inside Their Genitals Last Year
All of the Unusual Things People Got Stuck Inside Their Genitals Last Year

January 17, 2020 by Justin Lehmiller

Each year, the U.S. Consumer Product Safety Commission updates its database on “consumer product-related injuries” that occur in the United States. It’s a public health tool that tracks emergency room...

Kink & BDSM
Consent is Not a Defense: The Legal Ruling that Criminalized Consensual BDSM in Britain
Consent is Not a Defense: The Legal Ruling that Criminalized Consensual BDSM in Britain

January 13, 2020 by Justin Lehmiller

In the late 1980s, British police launched a massive investigation into men who were participating in sadomasochistic acts with other men in the United Kingdom. Known as Operation Spanner, the...

Kink & BDSM

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