7 Things You Should Know About Kink and BDSM

August 3, 2022 by Justin Lehmiller

BDSM (which stands for bondage/discipline, dominance/submission, and sadism/masochism) is one of the most popular sexual fantasies. It’s also a relatively common sexual behavior, with nationally representative US surveys finding that as many as 1 in 3 American adults have tried some form of BDSM before. Interest in BDSM appears to have risen in recent years and, at...

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7 Things You Should Know About Kink and BDSM
Sexual Uniforms: The Costumes That Turn People On
Sexual Uniforms: The Costumes That Turn People On

November 8, 2021 by Justin Lehmiller

When you fantasize about sex, do you ever imagine your partner(s) wearing a specific uniform? If so, you’re not alone. In the survey of 4,175 Americans I conducted for my...

Fantasies, Kink & BDSM
When Disgust Becomes a Sexual Turn-On
When Disgust Becomes a Sexual Turn-On

September 22, 2021 by Justin Lehmiller

“I felt disgusted, but also very satisfied.”  I just heard this line on an NPR podcast that had absolutely nothing to do with sex—but it really got me thinking because...

Kink & BDSM, Psychology
5 Things Science Has Taught Us About BDSM
5 Things Science Has Taught Us About BDSM

August 16, 2021 by Justin Lehmiller

BDSM (which stands for bondage/discipline, dominance/submission, and sadism/masochism) is one of the most popular sexual fantasies and a significant number of people report having engaged in BDSM acts before. Interest in BDSM appears...

Fantasies, Kink & BDSM
Sex with a Sleeping Person: The Psychology of Somnophilia
Sex with a Sleeping Person: The Psychology of Somnophilia

August 4, 2021 by Justin Lehmiller

Somnophilia refers to a sexual interest in which someone is turned on by the idea of having sex with a person who is sleeping—or being asleep and receiving sexual attention...

Fantasies, Kink & BDSM, Sex Ed
Sleeping Beauty Syndrome: Fantasies About Sex With a Sleeping Person
Sleeping Beauty Syndrome: Fantasies About Sex With a Sleeping Person

July 21, 2021 by Justin Lehmiller

Some people are turned on by the idea of having sex with a partner who is sleeping—or being asleep and receiving sexual attention from someone else. This sexual interest is...

Fantasies, Kink & BDSM, Sex Ed
How Common are Pregnancy Fetishes?
How Common are Pregnancy Fetishes?

April 5, 2021 by Justin Lehmiller

In the last couple of years, I seem to have become the go-to person for journalists and sex therapists who want to know how common a given sexual fantasy is....

Kink & BDSM, Sex Ed
Is BDSM Always About Sex?
Is BDSM Always About Sex?

March 17, 2021 by Justin Lehmiller

Most of the time that you see BDSM discussed or mentioned in the popular media, it is referenced as a sexual activity. In other words, it’s largely seen as something...

Kink & BDSM, Sex Ed
How Your Cat Could Make You Kinkier
How Your Cat Could Make You Kinkier

February 24, 2021 by Justin Lehmiller

Earlier this week, I wrote an article about how infectious organisms transmitted through sex can potentially alter the sexual behavior patterns of the host. By encouraging the host to engage...

Kink & BDSM, Sex Ed
How Common are Fantasies About Eating (or Being Eaten by) Someone Else?
How Common are Fantasies About Eating (or Being Eaten by) Someone Else?

September 25, 2020 by Justin Lehmiller

A reader asked:“How common are vorarephilia fantasies?”For those who aren’t familiar, vorarephilia (also known as vore for short) refers to a sexual interest that revolves around consuming or being consumed...

Kink & BDSM, Sex Q&A
The Psychology of Pup Play
The Psychology of Pup Play

September 23, 2020 by Justin Lehmiller

“Pup play” is a form of sexual roleplay in which an adult human adopts the appearance and characteristics of a dog. This may include dressing up like a dog (wearing...

Kink & BDSM, Videos
3 Reasons People Engage in Sexual Sadism and Masochism
3 Reasons People Engage in Sexual Sadism and Masochism

August 7, 2020 by Justin Lehmiller

Sadism and masochism involve deriving pleasure from the experience of giving and receiving pain, respectively. This can take a number of forms, from spanking to whipping to flogging and beyond...

Kink & BDSM, Sex Ed
The Psychological Origins of BDSM: 8 Things That Draw People to Kink
The Psychological Origins of BDSM: 8 Things That Draw People to Kink

July 27, 2020 by Justin Lehmiller

Bondage/discipline, dominance/submission, and sadism/masochism (BDSM) is one of the most popular sexual fantasies and a significant number of people report having engaged in BDSM acts before.So why is it such...

Kink & BDSM, Sex Ed
What’s the Difference Between a Kink and a Fetish?
What’s the Difference Between a Kink and a Fetish?

July 10, 2020 by Justin Lehmiller

A reader asked the following question:“I hear the terms kink and fetish being used in a pretty interchangeable way most of the time. However, I feel like they are two...

Kink & BDSM, Sex Q&A
I Fantasize About Getting Shrunken Down and Eaten by Another Man: What Does It Mean?
I Fantasize About Getting Shrunken Down and Eaten by Another Man: What Does It Mean?

January 31, 2020 by Justin Lehmiller

A reader recently wrote to ask me a question about their biggest sexual fantasy. He said:“I have always had a sexual fantasy about getting shrunken down and eaten by a...

Kink & BDSM, Sex Q&A
More Evidence That Many ‘Unusual’ Sexual Interests Aren’t So Unusual After All
More Evidence That Many ‘Unusual’ Sexual Interests Aren’t So Unusual After All

January 20, 2020 by Justin Lehmiller

Psychologists and psychiatrists typically use the term paraphilia to refer to unusual or uncommon sexual interests or activities. Hundreds of desires have been described as paraphilias over the years, although there are currently...

Kink & BDSM

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