5 Things Science Has Taught Us About BDSM

August 16, 2021 by Justin Lehmiller

BDSM (which stands for bondage/discipline, dominance/submission, and sadism/masochism) is one of the most popular sexual fantasies and a significant number of people report having engaged in BDSM acts before. Interest in BDSM appears to have risen in recent years and, at the time time, so has scientific interest. In this post, we’ll review 5 of the key things...

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5 Things Science Has Taught Us About BDSM
Sex with a Sleeping Person: The Psychology of Somnophilia
Sex with a Sleeping Person: The Psychology of Somnophilia

August 4, 2021 by Justin Lehmiller

Somnophilia refers to a sexual interest in which someone is turned on by the idea of having sex with a person who is sleeping—or being asleep and receiving sexual attention...

Fantasies, Kink & BDSM, Sex Ed
Sleeping Beauty Syndrome: Fantasies About Sex With a Sleeping Person
Sleeping Beauty Syndrome: Fantasies About Sex With a Sleeping Person

July 21, 2021 by Justin Lehmiller

Some people are turned on by the idea of having sex with a partner who is sleeping—or being asleep and receiving sexual attention from someone else. This sexual interest is...

Fantasies, Kink & BDSM, Sex Ed
The Fascinating Link Between Alien Abduction Reports and Sadomasochistic Fantasies
The Fascinating Link Between Alien Abduction Reports and Sadomasochistic Fantasies

September 18, 2020 by Justin Lehmiller

A surprisingly large number of people report having had paranormal experiences. For example, in a 2013 HuffPost/YouGov poll of 1,000 American adults, 32% of respondents answered yes to the question: “Have you ever...

Fantasies, Myth vs Fact
How We See Ourselves in Our Sexual Fantasies, and What It Means
How We See Ourselves in Our Sexual Fantasies, and What It Means

July 17, 2020 by Justin Lehmiller

When you fantasize about sex, do you appear in your own fantasies? If so, do you appear as you do in real life, or do you change yourself in some...

Fantasies, Sex Ed
How Sex Toys Can Help Bring Your Fantasies to Life
How Sex Toys Can Help Bring Your Fantasies to Life

January 17, 2020 by Justin Lehmiller

There is a big gap between fantasy and reality. When I surveyed more than 4,000 adults about their sexual fantasies for my book Tell Me What You Want, I found...

Fantasies, Potpourri
What’s Your Fantasy? Participate In The World’s Largest Scientific Survey Of Sexual Fantasies
What’s Your Fantasy? Participate In The World’s Largest Scientific Survey Of Sexual Fantasies

June 19, 2015 by Justin Lehmiller

Sexual fantasy is one of the most, well, "fascinating" topics in human sexuality, which is why I am currently running an online survey of sexual fantasies that is designed to...

Fantasies
Seven Fascinating Facts About Sexual Fantasies
Seven Fascinating Facts About Sexual Fantasies

May 15, 2015 by Justin Lehmiller

Sexual fantasy is one of the most interesting topics there is in the field of human sexuality. Below is a selection of fascinating facts that have emerged from the research...

Fantasies, Sex Ed
A Top 10 List Of Readers’ Sexual Fantasies: Fetish Parties, Forests, Science Fiction, And More
A Top 10 List Of Readers’ Sexual Fantasies: Fetish Parties, Forests, Science Fiction, And More

November 29, 2013 by Justin Lehmiller

Research has found that sexual fantasies are common for people of all genders and sexual orientations. However, there is a lot of variability in what people fantasize about. As some...

Fantasies
Fantasy Friday: A Top 10 List of Readers’ Sexual Fantasies
Fantasy Friday: A Top 10 List of Readers’ Sexual Fantasies

October 12, 2012 by Justin Lehmiller

Sexual fantasies are part of a normal and healthy sex life. The vast majority of people report fantasizing about sex at least occasionally, and more frequent sexual fantasizing is linked...

Fantasies
A Top Ten List of Women’s Sexual Fantasies: Zac Efron, Fire Fighters, Batman, And More
A Top Ten List of Women’s Sexual Fantasies: Zac Efron, Fire Fighters, Batman, And More

May 11, 2012 by Justin Lehmiller

A few weeks back, I posted an article about how men’s and women’s sexual fantasies differ. As I mentioned in that piece, women’s fantasies typically contain a fair amount of...

Fantasies
A Top Ten List of Men’s Sexual Fantasies: Football, Threesomes, Star Wars and More
A Top Ten List of Men’s Sexual Fantasies: Football, Threesomes, Star Wars and More

March 30, 2012 by Justin Lehmiller

I recently posted an article about how men’s and women’s sexual fantasies differ. As I mentioned in that piece, men’s fantasies tend to be sexually explicit, frequently include multiple partners,...

Fantasies
Fantasy Friday: A Top 10 List of Sexual Fantasies
Fantasy Friday: A Top 10 List of Sexual Fantasies

February 17, 2012 by Justin Lehmiller

In lieu of answering sex questions this Friday, I’m posting a Top 10 list of sexual fantasies that people have anonymously submitted to me over the years. It’s sort of...

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