In the Mood for Food: Sexual Fantasies About Food

April 25, 2022 by Justin Lehmiller

There’s a famous scene in the film 9 and 1/2 Weeks in which Mickey Rourke erotically feeds Kim Basinger a variety of foods including Jell-O, cherries, and tomatoes in front of an open refrigerator. Incorporating food and sex in a manner like this can be a big turn-on for some people. But just how common...

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In the Mood for Food: Sexual Fantasies About Food
Why Bridgerton and Historical Sex Turn Us On
Why Bridgerton and Historical Sex Turn Us On

March 28, 2022 by Justin Lehmiller

The new season of Bridgerton is out and it already has people hot and bothered. The first season was famous for its steamy sex scenes, which helped it to become...

Books & Films, Fantasies
Why We Struggle With Sexual Initiation, and How to Fix It
Why We Struggle With Sexual Initiation, and How to Fix It

January 24, 2022 by Justin Lehmiller

Sexual initiation is something that seems challenging to navigate for many people. Over the years, I’ve heard from a lot of readers who want tips on initiation, with some saying...

Fantasies, Sex Tips
The Psychology of Hentai Porn
The Psychology of Hentai Porn

December 20, 2021 by Justin Lehmiller

What was the most popular porn search term of 2021? According to Pornhub’s latest report, it was hentai. This term has been near the top of the list for a...

Fantasies, Media & Culture
Have You Ever Fantasized About Someone You Hate?
Have You Ever Fantasized About Someone You Hate?

December 8, 2021 by Justin Lehmiller

When you fantasize about sex, who do you usually think about? I’ve previously written about the various characters who appear in our fantasies and, most commonly, people mention current partners,...

Fantasies
Sexy Sounds: The Songs People Hear in Their Sexual Fantasies
Sexy Sounds: The Songs People Hear in Their Sexual Fantasies

November 15, 2021 by Justin Lehmiller

Sexual fantasies can be a multi-sensory experience. They’re not just about what we can see—but also what we can feel, smell, taste, and hear. In this post, we’re going to...

Fantasies, Psychology
The 10 Most Common Places We Fantasize About Having Sex
The 10 Most Common Places We Fantasize About Having Sex

November 10, 2021 by Justin Lehmiller

When you have a sexual fantasy, where does it take place? For some people, the setting doesn’t matter at all, whereas for others, the setting is crucial to establishing a...

Fantasies
Sexual Uniforms: The Costumes That Turn People On
Sexual Uniforms: The Costumes That Turn People On

November 8, 2021 by Justin Lehmiller

When you fantasize about sex, do you ever imagine your partner(s) wearing a specific uniform? If so, you’re not alone. In the survey of 4,175 Americans I conducted for my...

Fantasies, Kink & BDSM
How Many People Are Into Double Penetration?
How Many People Are Into Double Penetration?

November 1, 2021 by Justin Lehmiller

A reader asked the following question: “How many people are into DP [double penetration]?” Double penetration is a popular theme in the world of porn and often appears in threesome...

Fantasies, Sex Q&A
Sex and Travel: Why Trips Often Turn Us On
Sex and Travel: Why Trips Often Turn Us On

October 20, 2021 by Justin Lehmiller

A friend of mine told me about a recent discussion he had with friends where everyone talked about having had a similar experience: whenever they were away on a trip,...

Fantasies, Psychology
5 Things Science Has Taught Us About BDSM
5 Things Science Has Taught Us About BDSM

August 16, 2021 by Justin Lehmiller

BDSM (which stands for bondage/discipline, dominance/submission, and sadism/masochism) is one of the most popular sexual fantasies and a significant number of people report having engaged in BDSM acts before. Interest in BDSM appears...

Fantasies, Kink & BDSM
Sex with a Sleeping Person: The Psychology of Somnophilia
Sex with a Sleeping Person: The Psychology of Somnophilia

August 4, 2021 by Justin Lehmiller

Somnophilia refers to a sexual interest in which someone is turned on by the idea of having sex with a person who is sleeping—or being asleep and receiving sexual attention...

Fantasies, Kink & BDSM, Sex Ed
Sleeping Beauty Syndrome: Fantasies About Sex With a Sleeping Person
Sleeping Beauty Syndrome: Fantasies About Sex With a Sleeping Person

July 21, 2021 by Justin Lehmiller

Some people are turned on by the idea of having sex with a partner who is sleeping—or being asleep and receiving sexual attention from someone else. This sexual interest is...

Fantasies, Kink & BDSM, Sex Ed
The Fascinating Link Between Alien Abduction Reports and Sadomasochistic Fantasies
The Fascinating Link Between Alien Abduction Reports and Sadomasochistic Fantasies

September 18, 2020 by Justin Lehmiller

A surprisingly large number of people report having had paranormal experiences. For example, in a 2013 HuffPost/YouGov poll of 1,000 American adults, 32% of respondents answered yes to the question: “Have you ever...

Fantasies, Myth vs Fact
How We See Ourselves in Our Sexual Fantasies, and What It Means
How We See Ourselves in Our Sexual Fantasies, and What It Means

July 17, 2020 by Justin Lehmiller

When you fantasize about sex, do you appear in your own fantasies? If so, do you appear as you do in real life, or do you change yourself in some...

Fantasies, Sex Ed
How Sex Toys Can Help Bring Your Fantasies to Life
How Sex Toys Can Help Bring Your Fantasies to Life

January 17, 2020 by Justin Lehmiller

There is a big gap between fantasy and reality. When I surveyed more than 4,000 adults about their sexual fantasies for my book Tell Me What You Want, I found...

Fantasies, Potpourri

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