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Erotic Lactation: Exploring Men’s Breast Milk Fetishes

March 20, 2017 by Justin Lehmiller

People can develop fetishes for virtually anything. Most commonly, though, we’re talking about a specific body part (like feet or toes) or an object associated with the body (like boots, underwear, or stockings). However, in addition to body parts and clothing, people can develop fetishes for bodily fluids. For example, some people are sexually aroused by urine (also known as urophilia), a topic I’ve previously written about here. Another bodily fluid that some people have a fetish for is breast milk (also known as lactophilia), which is what we’re going to focus on today.

In a recent sexual fantasy survey I conducted, a surprisingly large number of men reported that they had fantasized about breast milk before, which prompted me to write an article on this subject for my latest column over at Playboy. In this article, I take a look some of the different ways that men are acting on these fantasies (including buying breast milk online and, in some countries, visiting actual “lactation bars” where they can order breast milk). In addition, I explore the psychology behind this particular sexual desire.

Like all sexual interests, breast milk fetishes appear to have complex origins. For example, in some cases, these fetishes can be viewed through a rather Freudian lens, being traced back to a man’s relationship with his mother or an early childhood experience. By contrast, in other cases, they may have more to do with a broader interest in dominance and submission.

Check out the full article to learn more about the psychology behind men’s interest in erotic lactation. While you’re over at Playboy, check out the Hard Science column to learn more about the science of sex. Some of my other recent articles include:

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Dr. Justin Lehmiller
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Dr. Justin Lehmiller is a social psychologist and Research Fellow at The Kinsey Institute. He runs the Sex and Psychology blog and podcast and is author of the popular book Tell Me What You Want. Dr. Lehmiller is an award-winning educator, and a prolific researcher who has published more than 50 academic works.

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