Episode 83: How To Overcome Insecurity and Feel Sexually Confident

April 12, 2022 by Justin Lehmiller

Sex and Psychology Podcast
Sex and Psychology Podcast
Episode 83: How To Overcome Insecurity and Feel Sexually Confident

Many of us feel sexually insecure in some way. For example, you might be concerned about your body shape or size, the appearance of your genitals, and/or your sexual skills or performance. We are often our own harshest critics, and this can be incredibly detrimental to our sex lives. Insecurity can make it difficult to relax during sex, to experience pleasure, and even to experience desire for sex. So how can you overcome sexual insecurity and build up sexual self-confidence? That’s what we’re going to be talking about today.

I am joined by Dr. Jennifer Gunsaullus, a sociologist, relationship and communication coach, and author of the book From Madness to Mindfulness: Reinventing Sex for Women. Some of the topics we explore include:

  • How you can learn to love your body.
  • How to feel more confident in your genital appearance.
  • How to let go of negative self-talk during sex and be in the moment.
  • Why focusing on orgasm as the goal of sex can reduce pleasure for everyone.
  • How to feel more confident in your sexual turn-ons and share them with a partner.
  • How to communicate your sexual boundaries.
  • What to do when you’re partnered with someone who is sexually insecure.

Check it out! Also, be sure to get a copy of Jennifer’s book, From Madness to Mindfulness, and visit her website at drjennsden.com

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Dr. Justin Lehmiller
Founder & Owner of Sex and Psychology

Dr. Justin Lehmiller is a social psychologist and Research Fellow at The Kinsey Institute. He runs the Sex and Psychology blog and podcast and is author of the popular book Tell Me What You Want. Dr. Lehmiller is an award-winning educator, and a prolific researcher who has published more than 50 academic works.

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