Episode 136: What Happens When A Couple Opens Their Relationship

October 14, 2022 by Justin Lehmiller

Sex and Psychology Podcast
Sex and Psychology Podcast
Episode 136: What Happens When A Couple Opens Their Relationship

The process of opening up a relationship can bring with it a number of benefits, but also a number of challenges. So what does it actually look like when a couple goes down the path of opening up? Let’s talk about it! My guest today is a leading expert on consensual non-monogamy and we’re going to explore what her own personal relationship journey looked like, as well as lessons she’s learned from several years of working as a therapist in this area.

I am joined by Jessica Fern, a Psychotherapist, Certified Clinical Trauma Professional, and author of the book Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma, and NonMonomgamy. She is also the author of the all-new Polysecure Workbook. Some of the topics we discuss include:

  • How can opening up a relationship change things for the better?
  • What are the most common challenges or obstacles that occur when opening up?
  • How do you know if monogamy or consensual non-monogamy is right for you?
  • What are some examples of “vessels” or relationship containers you can use to explore non-monogamy?
  • What kinds of things should you take into consideration if you’re thinking about opening up a relationship?

To learn more about Jessica, visit jessicafern.com and be sure to check out Polysecure and the new Polysecure Workbook.

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Dr. Justin Lehmiller
Founder & Owner of Sex and Psychology

Dr. Justin Lehmiller is a social psychologist and Research Fellow at The Kinsey Institute. He runs the Sex and Psychology blog and podcast and is author of the popular book Tell Me What You Want. Dr. Lehmiller is an award-winning educator, and a prolific researcher who has published more than 50 academic works.

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