Holiday Gift Ideas For The Sexy People In Your Life

In need of shopping inspiration for the sexy people in your life? Here are some sex-themed gift ideas and deals (mostly) inspired by science for everyone on your list.

Give the Gift of Sexual Communication (and Orgasms!)

Many people find it challenging to communicate about their sexual fantasies and desires because few of us ever learned how to communicate what we want. That’s a big part of the reason why I wrote Tell Me What You Want: The Science of Sexual Desire and How It Can Help You Improve Your Sex Life.

This book explores the most common sex fantasies and where they come from in an attempt to help reduce a lot of the shame people have about them. However, Tell Me What You Want also offers practical advice and information when it comes to sharing and acting on your fantasies so that you can feel more confident making the leap from fantasy to reality.

This book has the potential to enhance your sex life in numerous ways. Research has found that couples who talk about and act out their sex fantasies are more sexually satisfied. Likewise, research reveals that women who share and act on their fantasies have more orgasms, which means that getting in touch with our fantasies has the potential to help close the orgasm gap! How awesome is that?

Want to learn even more about the science of sex? Check out the all-new 3rd edition of my other book, The Psychology of Human Sexuality, which provides a comprehensive overview of the entire sexuality field. For the first time, this edition has also been released as an audiobook! If you prefer to listen rather than read, you can get 60% off of the audiobook for Black Friday by clicking here.

Give the Gift of Better Oral Sex

Earlier this year, I hosted Chris Maxwell Rose and Charlotte Mia Rose on the Sex and Psychology Podcast. In Episode 310, Chris and Charlotte shared tips and tricks for better oral sex. They invite us to challenge expectations and think about what you and your partner would like to experience. How do you want to feel? What do you want to experience? What are your oral needs and preferences?

If you’re unsure or don’t quite know what you like yet, they suggest thinking about it similarly to how we think about food. We all enjoy certain sensations, textures, and flavors. So what do you enjoy in your mouth? What do you not enjoy? Once we establish this, we can start to create an erotic relationship with our mouths.

Ready for a taste? Grab their FREE gift the Pleasure Mechanics Recipe for Best. Oral. Ever. And if you want even more, sign up for their Oral Sex Mastery course for a deeper dive. You can also explore their entire library of online courses to level-up your intimate life by learning everything from mindful sex to intimate touch techniques to kink.

Give Them Something Sexy to Listen to with a Gift Subscription

Sex & Psychology Premium is available on Apple Podcasts! This is the subscriber-only version of my Sex and Psychology Podcast. It will allow you to listen to new episodes of the show ad-free for an uninterrupted experience. Plus, you’ll receive exclusive access to bonus interviews from some of my fantastic guests featuring their favorite sex and relationship tips! Treat yourself to a subscription for just $3.99/month, or gift a subscription with an Apple gift card. Learn more here.

Give the Gift of Sexy Swag

Check out the Sex and Psychology store, where you can get your hands on some fun and sexy swag, including tank tops, tee-shirts, mugs, stickers, sweatshirts, and more. There are several fun product lines to choose from, including:

• Let’s Talk About Sex! (for anyone with sex on the brain)
• Sex Geek (for any student of sex)
• Sapiosexual (for anyone who’s turned on by intelligence—a little, or a LOT)
• Sex and Psychology (for all of the fans)
• Tell Me What You Want (for the fantasy fanatics)

I’m pleased to say that a portion of the proceeds for items purchased through the Sex and Psychology store goes to Planned Parenthood, the largest provider of sex education and sexual health services in the United States. Get some cool stuff AND make a difference at the same time! Use discount code WINTER24 to get 20% off your total purchase through my store!

Give Away Some Sexy Books

Everyone needs some good, all-around sex books on their shelves, right? One classic you can’t go wrong with is Mary Roach’s Bonk: The Curious Coupling of Science and Sex. This book actually started me down my journey of becoming a sex researcher!

A few of my personal favorite books (all of which I’ve covered on the podcast) include:

• Kinky History
• Why Are People Into That?
• Love Worth Making: How To Have Ridiculously Great Sex in a Long-Lasting Relationship
• DIY: The Wonderfully Weird History and Science of Masturbation
• Come As You Are
• Insatiable Wives: Women Who Stray and the Men Who Love Them
• Better Sex Through Mindfulness: How Women Can Cultivate Desire
• Becoming Cliterate: Why Orgasm Equality Matters—And How To Get It

Other great books about the science of sex and relationships that are always on my list include: Perv: The Sexual Deviant in All of Us, The Chemistry Between Us: Love, Sex, and the Science of Attraction, Why Is Sex Fun? The Evolution of Human Sexuality, and The All-or-Nothing Marriage: How the Best Marriages Work.

For a complete list of reading suggestions broken down by category (from opening up a relationship to kink to sex tips), check out my bookcase.

Give the Gift of Toys and Fun!

If you’re in the market for something that satisfies all season long, consider a LoveHoney Advent Calendar! They offer different toy-centric options for couples, singles, as well a lingerie set that will get you in the mood faster than you can say “mistletoe!” Lovehoney also has tons of amazing toys for couples, including couple’s vibrators and fun games. Check out their full selection here. And see here for their Black Friday deals, with some toys up to 70% off!

Just looking for a fun or humorous holiday sex gift? You just can’t go wrong with Pornogami: A Guide to the Ancient Art of Paper Folding for Adults. I mean, who doesn’t want to learn erotic origami? I own a copy of this one and it’s definitely a fun book!

Or how about The Sock Monkey Kama Sutra? In this book, sock monkeys demonstrate a range of sexual positions in a fun and playful way—it’s a great beginner’s guide to exploring some new things in the bedroom.

Looking for a fun cookbook? I suggest 50 Shades of Chicken: A Parody in a Cookbook, which contains the most seductive chicken recipes you’ll find anywhere (side note: my mom got a real kick out of this when I bought it for her a couple of years ago!).

And if you want to make your White Elephant exchange a teachable moment, give the gift of syphilis or gonorrhea (not literally, of course). You can buy plush toys that mimic the appearance of these actual microbes, which come complete with an image of the microscopic organism the toy was modeled after. Or, buy the entire set of microbes, which even comes with a plush dose of penicillin. I have them sitting on a shelf in my office!

Looking for other sexual health and wellness products? I have you covered! Check out my recommended list here.

Happy holiday shopping!

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