Episode 521: An Intimacy Coordinator’s Tips For Better Sex

In the previous episode, we went behind the scenes of film and television to explore how intimacy coordinators help create authentic, safe, and compelling intimate scenes. But the lessons from this profession extend far beyond Hollywood. In this episode, we’re bringing those lessons into the bedroom to explore how they can help us build healthier, hotter, and more connected sex lives.

I am joined once again by Laura Desiree, the creative director of SNCTM, a private members-only erotic society known for its immersive events that blend live performance, fantasy, intimacy and consent-driven exploration. She is a Level II certified intimacy coordinator with years of experience in erotic media and sex-positive storytelling. Through her work with SNCTM, Laura curates experiences that are culturally relevant, artistically elevated and rooted in clear boundaries, consent, and discretion.

Some of the specific topics we explore in this episode include:

• How can planning sex create more intimacy and chemistry?
• What can intimacy coordinators teach us about consent and communication?
• How can couples communicate their boundaries more effectively?
• How can people stay present during sex instead of overthinking?
• What should people know before recreating a favorite movie sex scene?

You can check out Laura’s website to learn more about her work.

Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology.

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