Episode 440: How Parenthood Changes Your Sex Life
October 14, 2025 by Justin Lehmiller
Becoming a parent changes everything in your life, including your sex life. It’s common for new parents to struggle with desire, let alone finding time for intimacy. So what can parents do to get things back on track? In today’s show, we’re talking all about how parenthood changes sex and tips for reigniting intimacy.
My guest is Dr. Rebecca Howard Eudy, an AASECT-certified sex therapist who helps couples navigate sex, desire, and connection. She is also author of the new book Parents in Love: A Great Guide to Sex After Kids.
Some of the specific topics we explore in this episode include:
- Why is parenting more stressful than ever? And what does this mean for parents’ intimate lives?
- How can you make your relationship a priority when it feels like everything is overwhelming?
- How can parents’ attachment styles exacerbate disconnection and conflict?
- What are some of the different issues parents face when it comes to having younger versus older children?
You can visit Rebecca’s website to learn more about her work.
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Dr. Justin Lehmiller
Founder & Owner of Sex and PsychologyDr. Justin Lehmiller is a social psychologist and Research Fellow at The Kinsey Institute. He runs the Sex and Psychology blog and podcast and is author of the popular book Tell Me What You Want. Dr. Lehmiller is an award-winning educator, and a prolific researcher who has published more than 50 academic works.
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