Episode 269: The Keys to a Pleasure-Filled Life

February 23, 2024 by Justin Lehmiller

Sex and Psychology Podcast
Sex and Psychology Podcast
Episode 269: The Keys to a Pleasure-Filled Life

Most of us could benefit from having a little more pleasure in our lives, both in and out of the bedroom. However, we’re not getting that pleasure for many reasons, including the fact that we lead busy lives and just struggle to find time for it. So it’s time to change our mindset around pleasure and to start making it a priority. My guest today likes to say that you should do something that brings you pleasure everyday, so we’re going to explore how to do that.

I am joined once again by award-winning sexuality educator Dr. Shemeka Thorpe. She is an assistant professor of health promotion at the University of Kentucky. Dr. Thorpe has published over 50 peer-reviewed articles and her work has been featured extensively in the media. In 2023, Buzzfeed listed her as one of the top 20 Black sexologists you should follow.

Some of the topics we explore in this episode include:

  • What is pleasure? What are the benefits of seeking pleasure beyond just feeling good?
  • How can we start to shift our mindset around pleasure and start to prioritize it without feeling guilty?
  • What are ways to be more present during moments of pleasure so that we can really enjoy them?
  • How can we have more pleasurable sex?

Make sure to check out Dr. Shemeka’s website to learn more about her work and follow her on Instagram at @DrShemeka.

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Dr. Justin Lehmiller
Founder & Owner of Sex and Psychology

Dr. Justin Lehmiller is a social psychologist and Research Fellow at The Kinsey Institute. He runs the Sex and Psychology blog and podcast and is author of the popular book Tell Me What You Want. Dr. Lehmiller is an award-winning educator, and a prolific researcher who has published more than 50 academic works.

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