Episode 267: The Science of Love (Essential Listen)

February 16, 2024 by Justin Lehmiller

Sex and Psychology Podcast
Sex and Psychology Podcast
Episode 267: The Science of Love (Essential Listen)

With Valentine’s Day being this month, love is in the air. So let’s talk about some tips for maintaining happy and healthy loving relationships all year long! In today’s show, we’re revisiting one of Sex and Psychology’s Essential Listens, which is my interview with Dr. Terri Orbuch from Episode 73. We’ll talk about what you need to know, whether you’ve been together for a short or long time. We’ll also explore how to know when it’s lust or love, and so much more.

Dr. Terri Orbuch is a distinguished professor at Oakland University and a research scientist at the University of Michigan’s Institute for Social Research. She is an author, speaker, and therapist known widely in the media as The Love Doctor for giving practical, science-based relationship advice. Her latest book is called “Secrets to Surviving Your Children’s Love Relationships.”

Some of the topics we discuss include:

  • How do you know whether you’re really in love with someone? What’s the difference between lust and love?
  • Is there value in the love languages concept?
  • How can individuals make sure their partners know they love them?
  • When is the right time to announce a new relationship?
  • How do we dial down the pressure and make Valentine’s Day feel like fun instead of work?

Make sure to check out Terri’s website to learn more.

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Dr. Justin Lehmiller
Founder & Owner of Sex and Psychology

Dr. Justin Lehmiller is a social psychologist and Research Fellow at The Kinsey Institute. He runs the Sex and Psychology blog and podcast and is author of the popular book Tell Me What You Want. Dr. Lehmiller is an award-winning educator, and a prolific researcher who has published more than 50 academic works.

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