Episode 175: When Single Life Sucks
March 14, 2023 by Justin Lehmiller
The stereotype we often hear about singles in the popular media is that they’re sad. In reality, however, a lot of them are thriving and living their best lives, which we talked all about in the previous episode. But being single isn’t sunshine and rainbows for everyone, though. For some, being single just sucks. So let’s talk about it. In this episode, we’re going take a look at when and why people struggle with single life and the factors that can make it a negative experience, including social exclusion, attachment anxiety, social pressure to be in a relationship, and more.
I am joined once again by Dr. Yuthika Girme, an Associate Professor in the Department of Psychology at Simon Fraser University in Canada, who has conducted extensive research on singlehood. Some of the topics we discuss include:
- In what ways are singles stigmatized or “singled out” in modern society?
- What is the role of family and culture in shaping people’s experiences with being single?
- How is singlehood experienced similarly or differently for men and women?
- How does sexual orientation factor into experiences with singlehood?
- How does attachment style impact one’s feelings about being single?
Check out the SECURE lab to learn more about Yuthika’s research, and be sure to follow her on Twitter.
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Dr. Justin LehmillerFounder & Owner of Sex and Psychology
Dr. Justin Lehmiller is a social psychologist and Research Fellow at The Kinsey Institute. He runs the Sex and Psychology blog and podcast and is author of the popular book Tell Me What You Want. Dr. Lehmiller is an award-winning educator, and a prolific researcher who has published more than 50 academic works.Read full bio >