Episode 151: Better Sex Through Mindfulness

December 6, 2022 by Justin Lehmiller

Sex and Psychology Podcast
Sex and Psychology Podcast
Episode 151: Better Sex Through Mindfulness

Low sexual desire is one of the most common sexual problems out there, but it’s something that has been notoriously difficult to treat pharmacologically. The search for a pill that can produce desire out of thin air has been elusive, and that’s because desire is very complex.  So we need to look elsewhere for answers. One research-backed solution that has a lot of demonstrated success at both increasing sexual desire and dealing with other sexual difficulties is changing your headspace through mindfulness practices. In today’s episode, we’re going to discuss what mindfulness is, how it works, who it’s for, and practical tips for incorporating it into your sex life.

I am joined once again by Dr. Lori Brotto, a Professor at the University of British Columbia, a practicing psychologist, and author of the books Better Sex Through Mindfulness and the all-new Better Sex Through Mindfulness Workbook. Some of the topics we discuss include:

  • What does the term “mindfulness” really mean?
  • How can mindfulness lead to more satisfying sex, and what’s the evidence for its effectiveness?
  • How can practicing mindful eating help you to become more mindful in the bedroom?
  • How do you learn to be mindful if you’re someone who has a very difficult time getting out of your head?
  • How can fantasy and mindfulness work together to elicit arousal?
  • How can romantic partners practice mindfulness together?
  • How can mindfulness augment other treatments for sexual difficulties?

Check it out! To learn more about Lori, visit loribrotto.com and brottolab.com, follow @drloribrotto on IG, and be sure to pick up a copy of her latest book, the Better Sex Through Mindfulness Workbook.

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Dr. Justin Lehmiller
Founder & Owner of Sex and Psychology

Dr. Justin Lehmiller is a social psychologist and Research Fellow at The Kinsey Institute. He runs the Sex and Psychology blog and podcast and is author of the popular book Tell Me What You Want. Dr. Lehmiller is an award-winning educator, and a prolific researcher who has published more than 50 academic works.

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