Episode 118: Our Biggest Sex Secrets Revealed

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Episode 118: Our Biggest Sex Secrets Revealed

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We keep a lot of things about our lives secret–but especially sexual things. People may hide their sexual thoughts, behaviors, and even feelings. And, sometimes, these secrets interfere with our pursuit of sexual and relationship happiness. So why do we hide so much about our sex lives in the first place? And if you want to let your partner in on a sexual secret, what do you need to know? Today’s episode is a deep dive into sexual and relationship secrets.

Michael Slepian returns to the show to help us lift the curtain. Michael is an Associate Professor of Leadership and Ethics at Columbia University and author of the book The Secret Life of Secrets: How Our Inner Worlds Shape Well-Being, Relationships, and Who We Are. He previously appeared on Episode 117 to talk about the broader psychology of secrets, so be sure to check that out if you haven’t already. Some of the topics we discuss include:

• Why our secrets focus disproportionately on sex.
• The most common things we hide about our sex lives.
• How technology is making it harder to keep sex secrets.
• Whether we should confess infidelity.
• The effects of keeping a romantic relationship secret.
• How to share intimate secrets with a partner.

Check it out! To learn more about Michael, check out his website at michaelslepian.com, take the secrets survey at keepingsecrets.org, and check out The Secret Life of Secrets.

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The Kinsey Institute’s (kinseyinstitute.org) 75th anniversary is underway and you are invited to join in the celebration! Follow @kinseyinstitute on social media to learn more about upcoming events. Also, please consider a gift or donation to the Institute to support sex research and education. Click here to donate.

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