Tell Me What You Want: An Unprecedented Look At Our Sexual Fantasies–And What They Say About Us

June 22, 2018 by Justin Lehmiller

I am thrilled to announce that my new book, Tell Me What You Want: The Science of Sexual Desire and How It Can Help You Improve Your Sex Life, will land in bookstores everywhere in just a few short weeks (July 10, to be exact). This book was several years in the making and I can’t believe that it’s now on the verge of release!

I’d like to tell you a little bit about why I wrote Tell Me What You Want and what this book is all about. However, rather than writing it all out, I made a short video–and I mean short. It’s only about four minutes because, well, internet attention spans aren’t very long. 🙂 But I hope that by the time the video is over, you’ll understand why this book is so important to me and, hopefully, you’ll want to read it, too.

As a thank you to those who have followed and read my blog over the years, I’m offering a special bonus for preordering the book, which includes an extra chapter that you won’t find in the book, some fascinating infographics, and more. Scroll below the video if you’re interested in learning more about this offer. Thanks for your support and I hope you’ll check out Tell Me What You Want!

Exclusive preorder bonus for Tell Me What You Want:

If you preorder the book (available from Amazon here and other retailers here) before July 10, you will receive exclusive access to the following materials:

  • A bonus chapter from Tell Me What You Want that dives into the psychology behind some of the less common sexual fantasies (such as dressing up like an animal to have sex–also known as a furry fantasy). This chapter is not in the book and will contain information about sexual fantasies that you won’t find anywhere else.
  • Early access to the Introduction from Tell Me What You Want, which teases some of the findings from the largest survey of sexual fantasies in America and explains how this book has the potential to help you improve your sex life and your relationship(s).
  • An exclusive video from the author in which he talks about why he wrote Tell Me What You Want and what you can expect when your copy of the book arrives.
  • Three infographics created from the largest survey of sexual fantasies in America (the survey that formed the foundation for Tell Me What You Want). These infographics contain data you won’t find in the book and they focus on (1) the sex/kissing scenes from movies that we fantasize about most often, (2) the science fiction elements that are most likely to appear in our fantasies (aliens and robots and vampires, oh my!), and (3) the uniforms/costumes that we are most likely to fantasize about a partner wearing.

Already preordered the book? Visit this page to claim your bonus! Enjoy!

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Dr. Justin Lehmiller
Founder & Owner of Sex and Psychology

Dr. Justin Lehmiller is a social psychologist and Research Fellow at The Kinsey Institute. He runs the Sex and Psychology blog and podcast and is author of the popular book Tell Me What You Want. Dr. Lehmiller is an award-winning educator, and a prolific researcher who has published more than 50 academic works.

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