Video: Your Sex Drive Is Normal

July 11, 2016 by Justin Lehmiller

The best way to make your sex life amazing is to “put pleasure at the center of your definition of sexual well-being and allow desire to emerge in response to sensations you enjoy.” – Emily Nagoski

A lot of people think there’s something wrong with them because they don’t have the constant desire for sex that people on TV and in the movies seem to have. However, if you’re one of these folks, you don’t necessarily need to be alarmed or worried. In fact, the truth of the matter is that you’re probably just fine.

As our friends at the Science of Us explain in the video below, some of us just don’t experience spontaneous sexual desire very often and, instead, experience more “responsive desire.” What we’re talking about here is desire that develops in response to engaging in sexual behavior, rather than preceding such behavior. Check out the video to learn more.

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Dr. Justin Lehmiller
Founder & Owner of Sex and Psychology

Dr. Justin Lehmiller is a social psychologist and Research Fellow at The Kinsey Institute. He runs the Sex and Psychology blog and podcast and is author of the popular book Tell Me What You Want. Dr. Lehmiller is an award-winning educator, and a prolific researcher who has published more than 50 academic works.

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