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6 Resolutions to Improve Your Sex Life in 2016

December 13, 2015 by Justin Lehmiller

At the start of each new year, many of us make resolutions for self-improvement, such as losing weight, getting one’s finances in order, or giving up smoking. As you ponder your own resolutions, let me give you an additional one to consider: resolve to have better sex. Not sure how? According to scientific research, here are six things you might consider doing in 2016 that have the potential to improve your sex life.

1. Be more vocal during sex. Research has found that people who make the most noise during sex tend to be the most satisfied. Why? Not only do moaning and groaning help to convey what you like and what feels good, but they also signal appreciation for your partner’s efforts.

2. Experiment with sex toys. A large number of women and men say they have previously used vibrators during sex and, importantly, usage of these toys is linked to reports of greater sexual satisfaction and better sexual functioning.

3. Do your Kegels. A lot of people think that Kegel exercises are just for women, but that’s not the case! Studies have found that Kegel exercises offer a range of sexual benefits to both women and men and they can actually help in the treatment of several different types of sexual difficulties.

4. Remember that “sex” isn’t just one thing. A recent study found that the more activities people reported the last time they had sex, the more likely they were to reach orgasm, and this was true for both women and men. Have you ever heard the old saying that “variety is the spice of life?” Well, variety just might be the spice of your sex life, too.

5. Watch how much you drink. A lot of people consume alcohol as an aphrodisiac–and consumed in small quantities, it can indeed have the effect of stimulating sexual desire. However, too much booze can lead to temporary sexual difficulties in men and women, including delayed or absent orgasm. Chronic alcohol abuse is linked to more persistent sexual problems.

6. Spoon or cuddle after sex. Research has found that the more time people spend on after-sex affection, the happier they tend to be with their sex lives and relationships–a finding that holds for both men and women. In other words, it’s not just what you do during sex that matters; what you do afterward seems to count for something as well.

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Dr. Justin Lehmiller
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Dr. Justin Lehmiller is a social psychologist and Research Fellow at The Kinsey Institute. He runs the Sex and Psychology blog and podcast and is author of the popular book Tell Me What You Want. Dr. Lehmiller is an award-winning educator, and a prolific researcher who has published more than 50 academic works.

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