Lessons From A 100-Year-Old Sex Therapist (VIDEO)

September 18, 2014 by Justin Lehmiller


“Sexual pleasure is only one part of what men and women want from each other. They want intimacy, they want closeness, they want understanding, they want comfort, they want fun, and they want somebody who really cares about them beyond going to bed with them. And I think people are always seeking that in every generation.”

Dr. Shirley Zussman is a practicing sex therapist in New York City–and she recently turned 100-years-old. Across all of her years in practice, sex has changed a lot, from the invention of the birth control pill to the rise of HIV/AIDS to the advent of online dating and hookups. At the same time, though, much remains the same, especially in terms of the sexual problems couples encounter and what people really want from their love lives. Check out the video below to learn more about Zussman and her reflections on how the sexual landscape has changed over time.

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Dr. Justin Lehmiller
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Dr. Justin Lehmiller is a social psychologist and Research Fellow at The Kinsey Institute. He runs the Sex and Psychology blog and podcast and is author of the popular book Tell Me What You Want. Dr. Lehmiller is an award-winning educator, and a prolific researcher who has published more than 50 academic works.

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