Episode 476: The Bedroom Gap At MidLife
February 17, 2026 by Justin Lehmiller
For many women, the menopause transition brings painful sex and low libido—issues that have long been endured in silence. Meanwhile, men have had access to highly effective sexual performance treatments for decades. The result is what my guest calls the bedroom gap: the widening divide in sexual expectations and capabilities between men and women in midlife.
I am joined by Dr. Maria Sophocles, a board-certified OB/GYN and Menopause Society Certified Practitioner. She is the CMO of EMBR Labs, a Boston-based wellness device company. Maria is also author of the new book, The Bedroom Gap, which is all about sex at midlife.
Some of the specific topics we explore in this episode include:
- Defining the bedroom gap
- The often overlooked sexual effects of menopause
- How Viagra widened the divide at midlife
- Barriers to treatment for women’s sexual health
- How to close the bedroom gap
To learn more about Maria’s work, you can check out her website.
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Dr. Justin Lehmiller
Founder & Owner of Sex and PsychologyDr. Justin Lehmiller is a social psychologist and Research Fellow at The Kinsey Institute. He runs the Sex and Psychology blog and podcast and is author of the popular book Tell Me What You Want. Dr. Lehmiller is an award-winning educator, and a prolific researcher who has published more than 50 academic works.
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