Relationships: The Importance of Being Growth-Oriented

A lot of people end relationships before ever truly giving them a chance, and it’s because many of us take the “shopping list” approach to love. In other words, some people have an extensive checklist of the things they’re looking for and they don’t stick with partners who fail to meet their criteria.

However, as I discuss in the video below—filmed as part of the Alpha Omega Project—this is a problematic way to approach relationships and it may prevent us from finding love. Instead, we may be better off taking a growth-oriented approach and keeping an eye toward what a relationship could potentially become rather than expecting that a relationship should be your ideal from the very beginning.

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